There are times we can just feel alone in this world. But I have figured out a way you and I can never feel lonely again.
The secret is understanding how you are never alone, because God, who knows you, is always with you.
To that you might wonder:
“But, does God know me? Does He really know who I am and everything happening in my life right now? Does He hear my prayers, know my struggles, see my pain?”
These are all questions we wonder about no matter where we are in our faith journey.
If you are at the beginning of your journey I want you to know that this is a safe place for you and I personally welcome you here to explore. If you are a believer but are struggling with those questions, my guess is there have been some significant challenges you have been wrestling with lately. I understand and hope we can walk through this post together.
Or maybe you are thinking, “Of course He does, God knows everything.” I hope you too will continue on with me as we talk about this topic and what it means in our relationship with Him.
Now that we have an understanding of who might be here in this space with us, let’s dig into this idea that you never have to feel alone or lonely because God not only knows you, He sees you and hears you, too.
There are times when we can think we are all alone in this world, even when we are standing in a crowded room. There you are, people swirling around you, a buzz in the air, and yet, you stand unknown, unseen, blending into the wall.
Because of it, we can apply our perception of people and assume it is the same for God. After all, if people who exist right before our eyes can pass us by so easily, wouldn’t it be true of a God who can seem so far away?
Perhaps. Or perhaps He knows everything about you…who you are, why you exist, what your purpose is, who you are meant to be.
In fact, I’d like to suggest to you that there is nothing He doesn’t know about you including when you are feeling lonely.
You are Never Alone: He Knew You From Your First Breath
In Psalm 139: 13-14, King David says,
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
God knows you because He is the one who created you, knitting you together you in your mother’s womb.
Can you even begin to conceive what it might be like to have God hand-crafting every essence of you — your veins and organs, your blood platelets and cells, your DNA and every molecular structure inside of you.
He created your skin and hair follicles, He decided on your skin tone. He chose your eye color, bone structure, and the color of your hair.
There is no part of you He did not put together for reasons and purposes only He can understand.
You are Never Alone: He Knew You As You Grew
And then when you were launched into this world kicking and screaming, later growing into a toddler, a teen and eventually an adult He watched you…your first steps, your stumbles, and falls. God knows when you are lonely even when you are not completely alone. He has seen it all from your first breath until your last when you’ll stand before Him in glory.
You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely. (Psalm 139: 1-4)YNever Alone: He Knows You Now
Even now, as you sit and read this blog, wondering about His knowledge of you, He sits and watches you. As David said, perceiving all of your thoughts. It’s a wonder isn’t, when we consider the God of the Heavens, wants to know us and is that near to us.
The other day I was reading in Exodus and this idea struck me again, the reality of His holiness — a perfect God caring so much about us that He would even want to know us, want to hear us, want to consider our needs, our wants, our desires.
Even though we fall short of Him. Deny Him. Curse Him. Forsake Him.
He loves us so much, He pursues us anyway. Believing that we’ll turn from our sin and see Him.
You see He said that same thing to the Israelites who were in Egypt. They had thought God had forgotten about them. After all, they were being oppressed as slaves by Pharoah. Every day they had to do hard labor for Pharoah, helping him build up the city of Egypt.
In Exodus 3:7-10, NIV God is speaking to Moses, but it is an excellent reminder for us today:
The Lord said, “I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. 8 So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey—the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites. 9 And now the cry of the Israelites has reached me, and I have seen the way the Egyptians are oppressing them. 10 So now, go. I am sending you to Pharaoh to bring my people the Israelites out of Egypt.”
He sees, He hears, He knows and He rescues us
The God of the Universe. The Creator of the Heavens and the Earth. Alpha and Omega.
He sees you. It says it plain as day in verse 7 – He has seen the misery of his people and He still sees your life today.
He hears you. Their cries reached His ears because of their slave drivers, their oppression, their struggle. Your cries, your prayers, your struggles…He sees them just as He saw the Israelites years ago.
He knows you and is concerned for you. He created you, in your mother’s womb. Of course, He is concerned for you. But in this case, in verse 7, He says in relation to their suffering. Whatever you are going through…in your loneliness, in your anxiety, in your marriage, or at work…He knows you and He is concerned for you.
He rescues us. In this case, Moses is the one He is sending to set His people free. But hundreds of years later He sent His Son Jesus to not only rescue us but to die for us.
You never, ever have to feel lonely, again. He is with you.
Why Does It Matter?
All of this does beg the question – Why does it matter? What difference does it make whether I feel lonely or whether God knows me?
To that, I would say, EVERYTHING.
You see, understanding that God knows you changes things. It changes how you perceive the world. How you understand yourself, how you would interact with others.
And it has a direct correlation as to whether or not you feel alone.
I know this because I have experienced it first hand.
You see for years I had struggled with understanding who I am, what I was purposed for, why I was here. I used to wonder if my life mattered and if God even cared. And consequently, I felt very alone at times. At times I felt like being alone was the worst place I could be, left to my own thoughts. I struggled with needing to have people around me to reassure me because my thoughts told me the opposite.
I was constantly trying to find my identity in other people because I wanted to be like them. It seemed as if they had life figured out way better than I did.
But now I realize, it’s not their approval that I needed. It was God’s.
Once I understood that God knew me, I realized I could stop striving to gain His approval because I had it all along. And then I realized being by myself was not the same as being alone. And worrying about what everyone else thought, was only keeping me from living out my calling in Him.
You see God placed in us a desire to be approved, to receive affirmation…but we warp that and instead of realizing we have received it from Him, we seek it from those around us.
In doing so we fall prey to people- pleasing, insecurity, rejection, and issues with control and anger thinking that we can figure it all out on our own, rather than recognizing the fact that who we are, our entire identity is wrapped up in Him.
Like Me Or Not: Overcoming Approval Addiction
In a few months, my book Like Me or Not: Overcoming Approval Addiction will be in the bookstores and you will be able to learn all about how to deal with the struggles of living in 2018 with all the beckoning of social media to make us feel valued, worthy, and wanted.
You’ll hear my story of how I learned who I am and how I had to overcome some pretty big hurdles in my ego and pride, to understand my addiction to people’s approval would have long-term effects on my relationships and my ability to live out my dreams.
You will be able to dig a little deeper and do a bit more self-analyzing of how this addiction has crept into your life and affected the way you view yourself and the people around you.
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All Proceeds go to The Link of Cullman County
Oh and for every book that you purchase (pre-order or otherwise) all of the proceeds will be going to help break the cycle of poverty through The Link of Cullman County. You read that right, I have donated all the book proceeds to the cause of relational ministry to the poor.
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My heart for the Like Me or Not book is to equip women all over the world (no matter who they are, what they have done, or how far they think they are from God) with a tool they can use to battle the enemy who wants to kill, steal, destroy what God has given them.
This book, whether in e-form or paper, is meant to be a weapon of destruction for the powers of darkness. Gifting this to someone who can’t afford it now, offers a chance at freedom, they may not have otherwise.
You Never Need to Feel Lonely: God is With You
No matter where you are at in your process of understanding who God is and How He knows you, you can know you are never alone.
Hebrews 13:5 says:
“Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.”
I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.”
When you understand who you are and whose you are, you will never feel like you are alone again.
Question: Do you struggle with loneliness? If so, when are the times that it bothers you to be alone the most? On what occasions do you feel lonely? Comment below and let’s chat about how we can encourage each other to seek the Lord when we feel alone.